Nowadays it is not unusual for a graphologist to become involved in discerning whether a document, written in an ‘immature’ hand was, indeed, written by a son or daughter or the parent. This often happens when the child is being used as a pawn in brokering financial settlements, or as proof that one parent failed in their care and responsibility for the child’s welfare and best interests.
It is a very sensitive and often emotional assignment for the graphologist. Great care has to be taken to ensure that not only the ‘evidence’ (the letter presented as written by the child) must be examined and a personality profile built up – but also the handwriting of the parent who has submitted it as evidence against their partner should be made available for both personality profiling and comparative examination. In most cases this will provide secure and unquestionable proof as to the legitimacy of the handwritten letter. However, there are occasions where the situation is far more complex when it comes to adult versus child’s handwriting.
To give you some examples which almost defy belief, but are used by a wicked, and criminally controlling, mentally and/or physically parent/guardian …
- Siblings will be groomed to believe that one parent/guardian is negligent, does not love them and is a bad parent/person. They will then be asked to copy out or take down from dictation a document that has been carefully prepared. Indeed, just one child, usually the most emotionally vulnerable within the family, will often be picked out for such treatment – making divisions between the family even deeper. Not only are the siblings set one against the other – but the child, itself, is torn to pieces feeling they have no choice but to comply with the dominant parent, but also feeling guilty, rejected and heartbroken because of the alleged misconduct of the other equally loved parent.
- An adult will approach the child of a family friend and ask them if they would like to copy out a letter that is going to form part of a book they are writing and that their handywork will be published as an illustration in the book. What child doesn’t want to see their name/work in ‘lights’! Not only that, the family ‘friend’ will give them some pocket money for doing it.
- A parent will, themselves, write lots of little notes in varying childish forms for print script and block letters – saying they were found in the a child’s bedroom, tucked into a book, left on the kitchen table – all indicating that the other parent has been ill-treating them, seen out with another person, or talking to them on the telephone making ‘improper’ suggestions or arrangements.
As time passes, the child who had been coerced into doing the unthinkable gradually matures and realises that there are two sides to every story – and wishes very much to rebuild their relationship with the parent who is again a part of their life. Hopefully bridges will be built, but the deep feelings of guilt and distress often refuse to allow a natural and easy relationship to develop.
Some cases are even more complicated and distressing – and it is very hard to remain objective – and not to draw conclusions without having the evidence of fraud, coercion or mental and physical pressure being exerted upon the writer, clearly confirmed. However, a graphologist is the person entrusted to find the truth of the matter, by using their knowledge of the fundamental rules of assessing a writer’s very individual and personal method of adapting the copybook taught when young, and their expertise in document examination and personality profiling.
Only a qualified and professional graphologist/handwriting expert with several years experience behind them should undertake this work, remaining totally without prejudice in their findings.